No Lemonade Please

This isn’t a story about turning lemons into lemonade. I’m not having any major problems in my life. I’m just itchy for adventure. My five-year relationship with my sweetheart Nancy and my daily life are about to be turned upside down as I embark on my adventure. I’m moving in with Nancy, which admittedly is pretty tame stuff even at 72 these days, but two months later…. more

Two years ago, I wrote an article on why men should be emotionally honest with women. The reader response was overwhelming. The article garnered more than 2,000 comments overnight, a number typically reserved for articles written by movie stars.

My name on the article was irrelevant. It was the topic that sent thousands of readers…. more

In 2012, dating expert Ken Solin wrote an article arguing men should be emotionally honest with women, and his words sparked an immediate debate. Many women cheered his words and voiced strong agreement, while many men balked and posted comments…. more

I write about senior dating, coach women over 60 in dating and dated online until I met my partner four years ago. Nancy was 63. I was 67.

What I’ve learned from all of these experiences is that women over 60, and particularly women new to online dating, frequently make one mistake that wastes time and energy. It eventually burns them out to the point that they give up online dating altogether.

Think Outside of the (In)Box

There’s an unavoidable moment of hope and excitement…. read more

I’ve been writing about dating over 50 for a decade. I’ve been a date coach to women over 50 for years. I share how women over 50 can find a life partner using the invaluable information in my new book, Your Guy Is Out There, Dating Tips For Women Over 50, .

A few quick tips women over 50 should use dating online:

Never answer emails from men.

Stop typecasting your dates.

5 questions to ask potential dates guarantied to weed out the wrong men.

My book is loaded with information derived from tens of thousands of men’s and women’s comments on my articles in AARP and The Huffington Post as well as my own dating experience.

I met my partner online four years ago using the exact principles in my book.

The Image

The image of a guy bringing chocolates to his sweetheart on Valentines Day is indelibly etched in every man’s brain. This is the quintessential example of a holiday created by and for the florist, candy and greeting card industries. Saint Valentine, a Roman priest who married Christian couples during Emperor Claudius’ reign doesn’t get much press. Don’t misunderstand I’m not opposed to celebrating Valentines Day enthusiastically. In fact I’ve already ordered flowers to be delivered to my sweetie so I don’t get shut out.

But I always feel something’s missing when I purchase products from all the aforementioned businesses. Sure, I cover the …. continued

Happy New Year to the wonderful, single women over 50, who have decided to remain in the dating world. My years of date coaching have shown me your grit and determination, two important factors that lead to success.

Please continue to date online but first make certain your online profile appears fresh and updated. Your life changes regularly, and your online profile should reflect those changes. New photos are definitely in order too. Remember to smile.

My new book, Your Guy Is Out There: Dating Tips for Women Over 50, is available now as an eBook and an audiobook: You might prefer the audiobook since you can listen to it while driving or during your rare downtime. My book also contains information gleaned from tens of thousands of comments from my readers in The Huffington Post.

I met my partner online four years ago against tremendous odds. We had both been dating online for several years without success. Grit and determination, plus the principles described in my new book, worked to bring us together.

All of my clients use the tips I suggest in my book, and nearly all found they were dating men they likely would not have in the past. Typecasting dates is one serious mistake I urge women over 50 to stop committing. My date coaching clients date more frequently and with higher quality men. Two are currently in long-term relationships, while several others are dating successfully.

Don’t let Valentine’s Day roll around before you begin to pay attention to what you’ll need to do to date successfully in 2017. It’s not a miracle or luck when seniors meet and fall in love. It’s about intention and smart dating.

Incidentally, I feel so passionately about this book I recorded the audiobook myself.

Good luck in your search.


To Date Or Not To Date
The decision whether to date in 2017 or carve out a good life exclusive of a relationship isn’t a simple one. I have several single women friends in their 60s who fall into both categories, but most are simultaneously creating a life without a partner and at the same time seeking one. None has given up entirely, and one actually found a partner in 2016 after dating on and off for many years. I helped her but it was her desire to meet a man that kept her going.

I wrote an article recently about how women over 50 can prepare to date… more

Merry, Really?
The ads for Christmas are already up so New Years ads can’t be far behind. For many single boomers this is a tough time of year. Not being in a relationship or having a partner during the holidays can feel lonely and impart a sense of permanent singleness. Not feeling a partner’s love at this time of year can have all sorts of ill effects, particularly if a single woman doesn’t have close friends or family. Thanksgiving dinner was just the first of several hurdles many will encounter. Christmas and New Years parties are right around …. more