An Online Dating Book For Women Over 50

I’ve been writing about dating after 50 for AARP, The Huffington Post, Maria Shriver, and other online magazines for more than a decade. I’ve received thousands of comments and emails from readers. My perspective on men derives from facilitating men in groups for thirty years. I’m also a date coach for women over 50 and my clients have succeeded using the information in this book.

Online dating is the one place where women over 50 are unequal to men. Every aspect of it is skewed in favor of men, frequently leaving women feeling at the mercy of male daters. There are far more women over 50 online than men, and making it more difficult is that many guys over 50 date like a kid in a candy store with a pocketful of change who wants to taste every flavor. While women have a tougher time dating online there are too many success stories to ignore. I can’t promise every woman over 50 will find the man of her dreams, but I can promise that following my suggestions will alter the way women over 50 date online. Don’t listen to anyone who insists online dating is a numbers game or that kissing lots of frogs is necessary. When women over 50 date smart they discover that finding a great guy isn’t like looking for a needle in a haystack. My clients and women friends have found good men, but finding a life partner takes time. Success requires stamina, patience and determination.

Partners, Not Rocket Riders

What’s clear from thousands of comments and emails from women over 50 is few want to spend the rest of their lives alone. Having said that, today’s women aren’t willing to cut their partner candidates much slack, and I support their determination to find a man with emotional intelligence. I urge women to focus on dating men who have done some inner work who can carry their emotional weight in a relationship. This book puts women on a path to meeting evolved men, and they’ll find the information required to identifythe best.



  • Ken’s adherence to the “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” philosophy of gender interaction is evident in his new book…His chapter on Emotional Honesty should be required reading for boomers before they date. The ability and willingness to express emotional truth is the foundation of a relationship.

    John Gray,
    author of The Mars/Venus books and relationship counselor.
  • Dating after 50 has its own issues and needs its own advice. Ken Solin makes sure that part of that advice includes the male perspective – both in order to help women to understand men better when they return to dating and also to help men understand the process, their emotions, and their own strategies better. This is an extremely useful addition to the dating literature for mature men and women.

    Pepper Schwartz PhD, author
    Dating after 50 for Dummies (Wiley, 2014), AARP love, sex and relationship Ambassador